The Sprouting Layer - When Growth Becomes Unstoppable
The Impossible Reversal
Once an onion starts sprouting, nothing will stop it. It will grow even without soil or water. The growth becomes self-sustaining, unstoppable, inevitable.
Before my son, I said: "When I have a child, the hustle is done."
What I really meant was: The hustle SHIFTS. I'll be hustling for my family. To provide. To give the best life possible. To be the father I didn't have, in the way I wanted him to be—but for my boy, building legacy.
But here's what I didn't expect:
I can't even imagine doing the things I did 10 years ago.
Not won't. CAN'T.
I'm so far into my systems, so deep into where I want to be, that going back isn't even an option my brain considers anymore.
That's not discipline. That's not willpower.
That's unstoppable growth.
The Non-Negotiable
Mon-Wed, 9am-5:30pm. I'm on duty.
My wife goes to her job. I take care of our son. Thursday-Friday, she works from home and we split duties. But those three days? That's our time.
When he grabs my hand and says "Follow me, Dad"—I go.
No debate. No negotiation. No "not now, I'm working."
I go.
People pass us in the park. At the library. On the beach.
"I remember that stage."
"My son is 31 now."
"I'm a grandmother and I miss it."
And I think: This is it. This is the window.
Sometimes I'm frustrated with myself. I should be working. Getting clients. Finishing projects. Building momentum.
But then I remember: This IS what I asked for.
The cycle that breaks with me. The bond I didn't have with my father—and probably he didn't have with his.
These moments in the park. The library. The beach. The pool. Playing with his toys. Drawing. Building forts.
This is the sprouting that can't be reversed.
The Dual Screen Dynamic
I finish work in the morning with him on my lap.
Dual screen setup: One for my work. One for his favorite shows.
He knows the drill. I do my duties.
Even on Zoom calls with clients—he's on my lap. They understand the dynamic.
My REAL meetings? The professional ones where I need full focus? I schedule those Thursday-Friday when my wife is home.
We make it work.
And here's the thing: Once my wife gets home, he wants Mommy. And I get it.
So these Monday-Wednesday days? They're my biggest blessing. And my biggest lesson in presence.
I don't want him to ever think he needs to validate me for my attention. Like I did with my father.
When he says, "Follow me, Dad," I follow.
The Boundary That Sprouted
My aunt called a few months ago.
She had a project. Potential to bring in work. But low-paying. The kind of thing that sounds like opportunity but really just drains time.
Before my son? I would've said yes. Performed. Proven my worth. Helped family.
Now? I said no.
We're staying on course. Higher-value clients. Better work. Moving the company where it needs to go.
Yesterday, my mom called.
She had an idea. A bag for dog walkers. She'd been playing with Gemini, designed a concept, needed a logo. Wanted to max out her credit cards, order inventory from China, bring her vision to life.
"Can you help me with the logo?"
Before my son? I would've done it. Free. Family discount. Proven I cared.
Now? "Good luck, Mom. Here are some AI tools that can help you. I don't have time on my plate for that."
Not because I'm mean. Not because I don't care.
Because I'm protecting time.
I'm not taking ANYTHING that doesn't move our family forward into the handsomely rewarded life we're in and only getting more amazing.
The Time Protection
That boundary didn't exist before my son.
I would've said yes to low-value projects. Helped everyone who asked. Performed for validation. Proven my worth through availability.
But something sprouted in me when he was born.
Time protection.
Not as a goal I'm working toward. Not as a discipline I'm practicing.
As a non-negotiable, that runs itself.
Like the onion that sprouts—it doesn't decide to grow every day. It just grows. You can't stop it. You can't reverse it.
That's what fatherhood did. It sprouted a boundary that I can't go back on.
And now I'm learning to apply that same energy to everything else.
The Crossroads
Here's the truth: Everything else in my life feels like a crossroads right now.
The tech company is dissolving. I need to make calls to investors that I personally brought in this week. One will understand. The other? That conversation will be interesting.
I'm tying up old clients. Cleaning up loose ends. Starting fresh paths that don't have momentum yet.
I don't feel the breakthrough. I don't feel the traction.
I feel the in-between.
But my son? That's not a crossroads. That's certainty.
Mon-Wed, 9am-5:30pm. "Follow me, Dad." No debate.
That's the ONE area of my life where growth is unstoppable. Where I'm not waiting for permission. Where I'm not performing for validation. Where I'm not questioning if I'm doing enough.
I just show up. And he grows. And I grow with him.
What I'm Learning
Unstoppable growth isn't about willpower.
It's about reaching a point where going back becomes impossible.
My son created that point for me.
And now I'm learning: What if I applied that same "Follow me, Dad" energy to my business? My rates? My boundaries?
What if I treated my time with clients the way I treat my time with my son—non-negotiable, protected, worth defending?
What if I said "no" to low-value work the same way I say "no" to distractions when he needs me?
Not because I'm disciplined. Not because I'm grinding.
Because I can't afford to go back.
The onion already sprouted. You can't unsee what you've seen. You can't unfeel what you've felt.
Once you know what presence feels like—real, uninterrupted, protected presence—you can't fake it anymore.
This Week's Peel
Once an onion starts sprouting, nothing will stop it.
Before my son, I thought the hustle would end. Instead, it shifted. It focused. It became non-negotiable.
I can't go back to what I was 10 years ago. I can't take on low-value work. I can't say "not now" when he grabs my hand.
The growth became self-sustaining. Unstoppable. Inevitable.
And now I'm learning to let that same energy lead everywhere else.
Time protection. Boundary clarity. Non-negotiable presence.
Not because I'm disciplined. Because I sprouted past the point where going back was even an option.
This week, notice: What growth in your life has become unstoppable? Where have you sprouted past the point of reversal? And what would change if you protected that growth the way you protect the things that matter most?
The "Being Coached" Layer: Breaking the Script
Dr. Goodman says that the value of a father being present is only now being fully acknowledged, as the detrimental effects of his absence are visible everywhere in the world. He reflects on his own journey with his daughter, Alexa, noting that he consciously provided the presence he lacked from his own father, making it his mission to show up for her—whether it was attending father-daughter black-tie school events or being there for her sports games. The challenges he once feared, such as the impact of divorce, actually became the catalyst for a closer bond because he chose to do the things his own father never did.
Today, when his adult daughter succeeds, she credits that legacy, simply saying, "Well, I am your daughter, Dad". By maintaining this conscious awareness and choosing presence, you are successfully breaking the cycle and earn the right to give yourself a pat on the back. This is the ultimate proof of the "Sprouting Layer": by consciously choosing presence over performance, you aren't just raising a son; you are securing a legacy that sustains itself.
Bookshelf Peeled - Systems Over Goals
In Atomic Habits, James Clear argues that we do not rise to the level of our goals; we fall to the level of our systems. True behavior change is actually identity change. You don't "try" to protect your time; you become the person who is unavailable for low-value distractions. This mirrors the "Sprouting Layer" of Week 34 perfectly. Just as the onion sprouts inevitably because its internal system has shifted, your boundaries are no longer a feat of willpower—they are a byproduct of your new identity as a father and a legacy-builder.
The core lesson here is the Impossible Reversal. When you shift your system from "performing for validation" to "protecting presence," the growth becomes self-sustaining. Like the habits Clear describes, your Monday-Wednesday routine with your son isn't a chore to be managed; it is a non-negotiable system that runs itself. You have sprouted past the point of needing discipline because your environment and identity no longer allow for the old way of living.
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones - By James Clear
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